Frequently Asked Questions
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Why choose Mediation?
Mediation allows couples to retain control over the most important decisions in their lives - those that affect their children and their finances.
Mediation is for people who want to minimize the harm that a divorce can cause, both emotionally and financially. Couples, with the help of a specially trained mediator, learn how to work together to resolve their differences despite their anger. These skills will help couples be more effective parents, even after they are no longer spouses. Couples are able to move forward with their lives without devastating their families or their finances.
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How does the process work?
The mediator will help the couple arrive at a fair agreement that meets their families’ immediate and long range goals. The mediator does not make decisions and is not an advocate for either party. The mediator will not decide who is right or wrong. With the mediator’s help the couple will determine what issues are important to each of them and come up with reasonable solutions to meet their goals.
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Is mediation only for couples with children?
No, couples with no children or grown children can also mediate their divorce.
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Do I need my own attorney?
Usually each party has the final agreement reviewed by an independent attorney before they sign it. However, you are always encouraged to consult with an attorney throughout the entire process.
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How long does mediation take?
Most mediations are completed in approximately 5-7 sessions. Each session is usually 1 ½ to 2 hours. The sessions are usually scheduled one week apart.
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How much does mediation cost?
The total cost of the mediation varies depending on the amount of hours spent on the process. Mediation is always less expensive than litigation. The Long Island Mediation group accepts checks, money orders and MasterCard or Visa for payment.
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Are there any up front costs?
No, the couple pays the mediator at each session. Unlike a traditional divorce, the couple is not required to pay a big retainer up front.
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Who are the mediators?
The mediators are generally mental health professionals, financial planners and attorneys, familiar with family law, who have been specially trained as mediators and have extensive experience and knowledge of the divorce laws, financial planning and taxes.
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Is the information provided to the mediator confidential?
Yes, all information both financial and personal is kept confidential and is not disclosed by the mediator and any information exchanged during the mediation cannot be used in litigation.
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What happens if we cannot reach an agreement?
Typically our mediators are able to assist most couples in reaching an agreement. However, if for some reason an agreement is not reached the couples are free to move forward with the traditional divorce process. However, the mediation agreement shall say that all information exchanged in the mediation process is confidential and cannot be used for litigation purposes.
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Is Mediation for couples who own their own business or have substantial assets?
Yes, if necessary the mediator can utilize the services of accountants, appraisers and business evaluators to determine the value of the parties’ assets.